The holidays are typically a time for celebration with friends and family but thinking about a holiday divorce can put a major strain on you emotionally. It is difficult to make seasonal preparations when you are married and unhappy and thinking about divorce processes.
There are a few approaches you can take to help you cope with a holiday divorce.
One way to help yourself is to be patient. If you rush into the divorce process during the holidays, you may become overwhelmed with unnecessary stress. Divorce is something new to you and a little patience will go a long way toward making your first holiday’s post-separation/divorce more enjoyable. Try to not share this with anyone, and if you do, only with people you can trust to provide support once the process begins. Practicing patience will be easier when you plan ahead and set a time line about when to possibly start the divorce process.
Planning ahead is important as well. Start by making a list of what you need to do to begin the divorce process, for example, researching about possibly consulting with a family and divorce lawyer. Also try not to let marital issues destroy your holiday joy. It is very easy to let emotions overcome you during the holidays. Arguing with your spouse may ruin your chances to get to a peaceful divorce settlement post holidays. If you have children, fighting in front of them is never a good idea. If this is something you cannot avoid you might have to change your plans a bit and re-arrange schedules. This can be an unpleasant process but it is smart to plan ahead to avoid dealing with this during your holiday. By giving some thought to what you would want to have happen after the holidays, this will guide you to do what needs to be done as well as make it more likely you’ll have a happy holiday season.
If you are considering divorce during the holidays and are unsure where to start, please contact Thorsteinson Law Group to help you. We provide complimentary consultations, and are dedicated to helping you through the divorce and post-divorce process.