While there is no easy way to talk to your kids about divorce, there are a few things you should keep in mind to make it as stress free as possible for them.
When you sit down to tell your children you have decided to divorce, it’s best to:
• Practice what you are going to say and how you will say it
• Leave anger, guilt, or blame out of the conversation
• Have both parents present for the conversation
• Keep the conversation appropriate for your child’s age, maturity, and temperament
One of the most important things to make sure you communicate to your kids, is that what is happening is between mom and dad, is not their fault. It’s easy for kids to feel they are to blame. Even long after the initial conversation, be sure to reassure your children that it is not their fault.
Give your kids enough information to prepare them for the change and answer their questions truthfully. Keep in mind that kids don’t need to know all the detailed reasons behind a divorce just try to make sure they understand what will change in their daily routine, and what will not.
Remember that as much stress as a divorce can give to you, you can actually transfer that to your children, which is what you want to avoid at all costs. Children tend to carry the experience of their parents separating to their adulthood. Making this conversation civil, light, and easy to comprehend as possible will only benefit your kids understanding of the divorce, in the long run.
Contact Thorsteinson Law Group located in Long Beach and Huntington Beach to help you with your divorce. We provide complimentary consultations, and are dedicated to helping you through the divorce process. Brett Thorsteinson is a divorce lawyer who will advocate for your rights.